Coping after a suicide is different from
other types of bereavement, and can cause
many feelings on top of the grief usually
felt after a death.
The following suggestions may help you cope
if you've lost a loved one through suicide.
Set aside some time each day for grieving
so that you can cry, remember the dead person,
pray or meditate.
Record your feelings, thoughts and memories
in a journal. Writing may help you gain some
control over intense emotions and so reduce
Take care of yourself. When you are able,
set aside time for things that you used to
enjoy. This is not disloyal and will help
you cope with your grief.
Exercise should help you feel better
emotionally and will make you physically
tired so that you sleep better.
Meditation, relaxation techniques, massage
and listening to music can help reduce the
emotional and physical stress of bereavement.
Some people find it helps to express their
feelings through writing poetry or painting.
Other creative activities can also be healing
Avoid making major decisions, like disposing of
the person’s belongings, soon after
the death. You may not be thinking clearly
and may do things you later regret.
Birthdays and the anniversary of the death
can be difficult. Talk to other family members
and plan in advance how you want to spend
You may feel particularly down when the tasks
of planning the funeral and sorting out the
affairs of the person who died are over.
Ask for help if you need it.
Alcohol or drugs may provide short-term relief
from painful feelings, but they delay grieving
and can cause depression and poor health.
If you are feeling depressed (which may affect
your sleep, appetite and lead to suicidal
thoughts), get help from your GP.
You may prefer to seek support from people
other than friends or family. Help is available
from bereavement groups, self-help groups,
faith groups and through bereavement
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